The Paradigm Shift Program™

This is the world’s first comprehensive program designed entirely around supporting and empowering YOU - the parent of a PDA child or teen. 

The program will teach you everything you need to know about your child or teen's brain, nervous system and Pathological Demand Avoidance / Pervasive Drive for Autonomy.

But just as importantly, it will also teach you how to choose and implement the accommodations your child or teen needs and then track indicators of the health of their nervous system.

This will enable you to see with your own eyes how to build a trusting connection with your child or teen, help them access basic needs (toileting, sleeping, eating, hygiene, movement, leaving the house, etc.), and increase your confidence as a parent as you reframe the purpose of your life on this unique journey.

Ultimately the Paradigm Shift Program™ will bring you back to who you already are: a great parent who DOES know what is best for their child and family, and with the clarity needed to make aligned decisions, advocate for their family, and create a stable home life.

 If you are anything like my clients...

Your child has received partial or incorrect diagnoses that have never seemed to fully fit or make sense – whether it is Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) , ADHD, Autism, Childhood OCD, Attachment Disorder, Sensory Processing Disorder, etc.

But more importantly – and regardless of diagnosis – you haven’t yet been given a way to think about your child’s brain and nervous system that will actually help your family and your child.

Alternatively, like many of my clients, perhaps you have already been working on a “low demand lifestyle” with your PDA child, but it seems completely unsustainable and ultimately doesn’t seem to be supporting them.

Are you not supposed to set *any* boundaries? No screen time limits ever?  Even if you understand how your PDA child’s brain works, you may be wondering – How can I set up a life that I actually want to live and that is sustainable not just for them, but also for me, my partner and my other children? 

In this program you will answer those questions and start creating that life!

What if I told you that finding peace as a parent of a PDA child is possible? 

Not only is it possible, but this program will teach you to understand your child, your life and your decision-making in a way that will allow you to lead your family out of the dark woods to a new equilibrium. The Paradigm Shift Program™ is meant to be life-altering by putting you back in your leadership role, where you belong. 

With the new way of thinking about parenting a PDA child, you will no longer be throwing your hands up in the air with exasperation wondering, “How can we possibly live like this as a family?” You will receive an original cost-benefit framework for making decisions, practical accommodations that will move the needle in your home IMMEDIATELY, a method for understanding whether your child is making progress out of burnout, and all the mindset shifts, reframes, and tools that will make your life with a PDA child not only more stable and easeful, but more joyful and connected.

This program will radically shift your child’s life trajectory, regardless of diagnostic label. As a parent, you can offer autonomy, nervous system support, and deep connection, even if you, your partner or the people in your life don’t fully understand, “believe in,” or have a diagnosis of PDA.  It doesn’t matter. This is about the changes YOU can make to connect with your child and lead your family. 

Alternatively, even if you think you know everything about PDA, have already spent time implementing the “low-demand lifestyle,” or feel completely stuck after years of trying, this program will help you see your blindspots to get you unstuck. 

Awareness: Understanding Your Child's Brain and Nervous System

 ✓ Thorough explanation of what PDA is and how it impacts children and teens, based on my preliminary research and experience coaching hundreds of families. 

✓ Your child's Extreme Demand Avoidance Questionnaire (EDAQ) score and Limitations of the EDAQ. 

✓ The Most Fundamental Mindset Shifts on your Journey

✓ **Shareable PDFs included in all modules for ease of communication with others in your life.

Acceptance: Cost-Benefit Thinking to Move Your Family Forward

✓  Understanding, recognizing and moving out of burnout

✓  Why many traditional parenting paradigms don't work

✓  Thinking as a family system with a PDA child 

✓  The theory of change that brings families more peace 

Accommodation: The 9 Proactive and 3 Responsive Accommodations

✓  How to experiment with accommodations (including and beyond lowering demands) and track impact and progress

✓  The four states of regulation

✓  Communication, play and other ways to build connection 

 ✓  De-escalation techniques for meltdowns and safety

Affirmation: Building a Healthy Self-Concept for Your PDA Child or Teen.

✓  Why talking about emotions and zones of regulation doesn't work with a PDA kid. 

✓  How to name the threat response with example scripts. 

✓  How to talk about identity with your PDA child.

✓  Lots of concrete examples to ground you in implementation.

Advocacy: Creating Safe Spaces Outside Your Home

✓  How to create "Bubbles of Safety" for your PDA child and family outside the home. 

✓  Using Non-Violent Communication strategies 

✓  Therapy, activities, and how to help your child access life outside of the home!

✓  Understanding People-Pleasing, Boundaries, and how *your* nervous system and upbringing might be impacting your ability to advocate for your child.